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Beer for the dying

At the beginning of Victoria's memorial service, George, her husband, gave a welcome speech. The first memory he told us about was of the last few weeks or months of her life, when every morning she would wake up and they would share a beer. Even on her last day, he wet her lips with [...]
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Victoria Bolles, RIP

Victoria from her obituary at the local paper. I mentioned a few days ago that I had two Memorial Services I wanted to go to yesterday afternoon. The one I actually went to was for Victoria Bolles, a friend from the West Gallery Quire. Victoria from her Facebook Page I didn't know Victoria that well [...]
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Marty Sasaki, RIP

Marty from post to his high school facebook page Marty's death apparently happened about six months ago. He stopped posting to his blog on August 13. His recorder teacher, who told me about it, had seen him at her student recital (which may have been the one on September 12) two days before he died. [...]
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The Spare Room

This book is about aspects of taking care of a dying person that I mostly didn't do with Bonnie. The main character (Helen) lives near Melbourne, and has a close friend (Nicola) with cancer who lives in Sidney but has found a "clinic" in Melbourne that she believes will cure her cancer. So she moves [...]
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Woes of an Executrix: taxes

I swore I'd get the First and Final Accounting of Bonnie's estate done by today, so I've chained myself to the desk and I'm working on it. This means I don't have time to write anything new today, but it also means I've been reading a lot of the stuff I wrote when I was [...]
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End is in sight

Of the executrix gig. I just printed off the statement of income, expenses and deductions that the lawyer for Bonnie's estate needs to file the estate taxes. Yesterday I sent what I believe to be the final check to the IRS to cover the tax mess she was in. If you ever have to do [...]
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Cleaning out the house of a deceased person

I've been thinking about this experience because of writing up the summary for the IRS of what we sold and donated. There are other good stories to tell, but here's the email I sent to the list of Bonnie's friends about a month after she died: Subject: [Bonnienews] deadlines I have been officially appointed executrix [...]
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Pauline Bonaparte

I read Pauline Bonaparte, Venus of Empire by Flora Fraser last week. It's the kind of biography where you're surprised at how much material there is, but a little sorry that more of it didn't get edited out. But the picture that emerges of the Bonaparte family life is really pretty interesting. Especially how much [...]
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Timeline of Bonnie's death

One of the things I mean to do at some point during this year of blogging every day is write a series of posts about what it was like when a close friend suddenly became ill and died, and I ended up with her health care proxy, power of attorney, and being the executrix of [...]
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Two Weeks of Life

I was up far too late last night finishing this book. Eleanor Clift, the author, is a reporter whose husband was dying at home under hospice care during the same two weeks that Teri Schiavo's feeding tube had been disconnected. I had ordered the book when I read the review in the New York Times, [...]
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